I’ve been thinking about death a lot recently. Just saying that to people has been met with a few strange looks, some uncomfortable shuffling, and rapid changes of subject. But why? It’s life’s only true certainty, and yet many of us approach the fact with an attitude somewhere on the scale between cheerful fingers-in-ears denial…

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Self care seems to be everywhere at the moment. You don’t need to look far on any social media platform to find dozens of people extolling what they do for their self care. I frequently post on this important topic as I feel it’s so vital to our individual well-being to make sure we’re looking…

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grief in isolation

Grief is, for many people, a lonely and isolating experience. No-one knew your loved one quite like you did; no-one had the exact relationship with them you did; therefore there is no-one who can fully understand your loss. You can be surrounded by people – in fact especially in the early days following a bereavement…

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“It’s so difficult to know what to say.” Sadly, many of us are searching for words at the moment. In these times of social distancing we find ourselves needing to find alternatives to the many non-verbal forms of communication that we usually rely on. There’s no kettle to put on or hug to give to…

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Sudden death and bereavement

When we think of sudden and traumatic death, we think probably of deaths by murder, suicide or accident. We might think of a sudden heart attack that was instantaneous and completely unforeseen. But of course, many different types of loss may be traumatic for the people left behind. Even when a death is ‘expected’, it’s…

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I was struck by the results of a study, carried out by the University of Stirling and widely reported in the press, that looked at the impact of the death of a friend on mental and physical health. The research found that this type of bereavement can have serious effects for up to four years…

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From March 2020, psychologists began to publish warnings that medical staff working through the height of the pandemic, perhaps faced with difficult choices and almost certainly higher patient mortality than usual, should watch for and guard against the symptoms of what they called ‘moral injury’. They warned that if left unchecked, it could lead to…

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In a normal year, it’s expected that there would be around 600,000 deaths in the UK but, as we know all too well, 2020 has not been a normal year. One of the sectors pushed to new limits this year by COVID-19, is the funeral profession. Funeral directors and their staff have been severely tested…

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